Why are Psychology Researchers surprised when they find sterotypes

It seems to me that you could do a lot of damage to your relationships -- and especially to your marriage -- if you tried to follow all the relationship advice that comes from psychologist and sociologists that gets filtered through the media. At the heart of the matter is rebellion against God's design for society and families.

The astounding thing about this article is how the reporter looks for someone to blame for this violation of psychological, egalitarian and feminist principles. You can see the shock in this excerpt:

In the land of romance, ladies might do well to shut their traps, while men can continue to blab.

That's the message of new research revealing that both men and women judge harshly couples in which the guy is a timid talker and the gal dominates conversations and shows assertiveness.

The scientists suggest gender stereotypes are to blame for study participants' negative views of couples breaking the mold....

Past research has found such mismatched couples (those that violate gender-role stereotypes) tend to be less satisfied. In the current study, published in the October issue of the journal Sex Roles, the researchers investigated whether gender-role expectations play a role in the dissatisfaction....

Whether or not we like to admit it, Sellers said, we take heed of gender stereotypes. And these societal limits can hurt both men and women alike.

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It is almost as if the design for male-female relationships are designed and programmed by someone with different values than those of the psych researchers. I wonder who?